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Considering Divorce in the New Year

Welcome to the new year; it’s time to take a personal inventory. You survived the holidays, which are often equal parts celebration and stress, and the latter may have you decide you need to make a change in your relationship. As you review your priorities and plan for the coming year, here are some important things to keep in mind when it comes to marriage and divorce.

Make the Healthy Decision

When your relationship has reached the point that you are considering divorce, a lot of negative emotions are in play – anger, hurt, and resentment, to name a few. You and your spouse may be fighting more often or barely communicating while tension builds. Before going out with a bang, give some thought to how this will play out. Words said spontaneously – especially in the middle of a fight – may come back to haunt you. As we learned from some mental health experts, it’s better to have serious conversations about your relationship calmly after careful thought.

Dealing With a Narcissist

If your spouse is a narcissist, you need to be particularly careful when considering a divorce. As we’ve reviewed before, narcissists can be volatile and vengeful, so prepare yourself in advance by

  1. Making copies of key documents, including financial, ownership, identification, and other information that will be vital for the divorce process and that you will need after the divorce.
  2. Creating a secret war chest, since divorce is expensive, and you may find your narcissistic spouse will take steps to cut you off from your marital assets.
  3. Consulting with an experienced family law attorney who can guide you through the process.
  4. Taking care of yourself. Congratulations, you are ready to make a break from the narcissist in your life; you’ve probably suffered trauma, so take the time to heal and energize for the fight ahead.

Think Through the Way You Want the Divorce to Go

Every marriage is different, and there are as many different ways to reach a final divorce. If you think you can work with your spouse, consider the less expensive and less bitter options of mediation or collaborative divorce. A negotiated divorce may not give you everything you want, but it is less risky than a trial where the judge has the final say. Also, consider the practicalities of your situation. Is moving out the right thing for you? Because of the many ways that a divorce can be handled, it is a good idea to confer with an experienced family law attorney.

Malech Law is located in downtown Bethesda, Maryland. For more than 25 years, Mr. Malech has provided aggressive and effective representation for his clients in Maryland and the District of Columbia. This year, he was selected as the Best of Bethesda 2022 Readers’ Pick for Best Family Law Practitioner. He has also been given the Lawyers of Distinction Award Recognizing Excellence in the Area of Divorce and Family Law for the past three consecutive years and has just been recognized as a Family Law Top 10 Attorney for 2021 by “Attorney and Practice Magazine.”

Visit Malechlaw.com or call (202) 441-2107.

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