My Spouse Just Asked for a Divorce- What Do I Do Now?

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My Spouse Just Asked for a Divorce- What Do I Do Now?

For some people, this may come as a shock but for others, they may have seen the writing on the wall. Marriage is not easy for most people and many of us will eventually come to the realization and decision that divorce is the best option. According to the American Psychological Association, 50% of marriages end in divorce.

Whether you are surprised by your spouse’s question or not, what is certain is that you would need a plan of action to make it through this difficult time. The following are a few helpful tips that can help you to deal with the situation.

Remain Calm

Chances are if you are headed for a divorce, this is an emotional time for you; after all, we typically do not get married just to get a divorce. It is easier said than done to control your emotions during this challenging time. Nevertheless, it is crucial to start the process of divorce with a level head for a better outcome. This is especially important if this marriage has produced children who will be affected by you and your spouse’s decision.
Very soon in the future, there will be many important decisions that you will need to make, that will affect you, your spouse, and your children. Attempting to make those decisions will be close to impossible if you are not emotionally stable. Keep calm, and remember that divorce is not a death sentence. Find a method of relaxation and emotional control that works for you.

Attempt Communication

At some point in all of our lives, we need to have a difficult conversation. Perhaps no conversation is more difficult than the conversation with your soon-to-be ex-spouse about the terms of your separation and divorce. If you are both ready to speak amicably, it may be a good plan to carve out some time, so you can discuss the choices that are best for all parties that will be affected by your divorce.
This is an important time that you need to communicate with your children or any other family member who will be directly affected by the upcoming divorce.

Hire the Best Lawyer

In these situations, it is always a good plan to find your own legal counsel. It does not matter how amicable and simple you believe your case may be, divorce matters are known to become dirty and complicated quickly. If your finances are combined, there are high stake assets involved, or you are not able to agree to a custody/visitation schedule, then hiring an experienced family law attorney can help you guide you through this situation.

The Law Offices of Lloyd A. Malech is here to protect your interests and advocate on your behalf. For assistance with your divorce, contact our office today.


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Lloyd A. Malech
The Law Offices of Lloyd A. Malech is located in downtown Bethesda, Maryland. For more than 25 years, Mr. Malech has provided aggressive and effective representation for his clients in Maryland and the District of Columbia. He has been honored with the Lawyers of Distinction Award Recognizing Excellence in the Area of Divorce and Family Law for the past three consecutive years and has just been recognized as a Family Law Top 10 Attorney for 2021 by “Attorney and Practice Magazine.” Visit or call (202) 441-2107

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